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Eva Longoria ends hers, Facebook threatens it, and many don't care about it. What's up with marriage?

By Katie Rogers
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As news of another celebrity divorce hits, a new study shows more Americans are finding marriage obsolete. (REUTERS/Regis Duvignau/Files).

Maybe it's the fact that a desperate housewife lost her husband -- or maybe it's the British monarchy. Either way, this week has presented a great opportunity for us to lose our minds over the concept of marriage.

But for as much as we tend to speculate over royal engagements or celebrity weddings, our focus seems to intensify when we detect that things are going wrong. Perhaps for this reason a growing number of us -- a quarter of Americans, according to this Pew study -- actually think marriage is becoming increasingly unnecessary. (Though the tanking economy might be more to blame than a growing sense of cynicism.)

This morning, news broke that a New Jersey minister is trying to save marriage by demanding his church elders delete their Facebook accounts in the name of escaping temptation. The New York Post reported that the Rev. Cedric Miller of Living Word Christian Fellowship Church says 20 couples out of 1,100 in his congregation have put their marriages in danger by reconnecting with past loves on the social networking site, perhaps sowing wild oats over stolen hours with FarmVille.

In other technology-driven infidelity news, there's also the revelation of Tony Parker and Eva Longoria's split over an alleged mistress here. It seems like hundreds of illicit text messages brought this couple down.

Entire online communities are forming around figuring out whatever comes after losing love. Distraught halves of what once were couples seek advice, support and even divorce-related news (thanks, Huffington Post Divorce!) in their quest to feel better.

YOUR TAKE: When it comes to marriage, are we smarter or more cynical than we were before?

Does Facebook give us an out to a failed relationship? And are we just interested in a grand royal wedding because the marriage itself might go down in flames? Give us your thoughts by using #stateofmarriage on Twitter and we'll post some responses right here.


By Katie Rogers  | November 18, 2010; 12:02 PM ET
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I wouldn't say that marriage is becoming obsolete these days. However, I would say that people are more cautious about entering it, especially at such an early age. And I believe that people are more free during their youth and enjoy the free time they spend unattached to a partner. But I wouldn't say that marriage is becoming obsolete. It's just changing it's face a little as the time goes on.

Posted by: artod4789 | November 18, 2010 12:25 PM | Report abuse

The question should be is Commitment, loyalty, faithfulness obsolete. The answer is yes. Why? no Godliness because folk don't view marriage as sacred. They view it as temporal the same way; people view leasing cars..when its out of style trade it in and get another but whatever you do don't commit to anything that you cant get out of.

Posted by: hammer4 | November 18, 2010 12:47 PM | Report abuse

Facebook isn't a 'danger' to marriage. People who find themselves with the inclination, self-justification and the opportunities to be unfaithful will (and have) be more inclined to have an affair.

You might as well blame the telephone. Or working. Or not working.

People have affairs--Facebook doesn't force them to do so.

Posted by: Skowronek | November 18, 2010 12:48 PM | Report abuse

Marriage will never be obsolete. It was instituted at creation by God. What he created will endure. Also, facebook is just a tool. There has been an impediment to marriage almost since the beginning, and that is sin. Anything can be used to promote adultery and fornication if a person sins in that way. But it is the person w

Posted by: Frappyhappy18 | November 18, 2010 3:54 PM | Report abuse

All this angst about whether or not marriage is relevant is... sad and depressing to contemplate.

The problem is that our society and culture tends to tell us that to be successful, we have to be selfish/take care of #1/ look out for ourselves first.

In marriage, however, the opposite is true. To be successful in marriage, you must be unselfish / compromise / give generously / serve others first.

Unselfishness is not a hallmark of our "modern culture"... it is not something we praise. It is not something we train our youth to value. So it's no surprise that our younger generations are struggling to make marriage work for them.

Posted by: Sylvania | November 19, 2010 8:41 AM | Report abuse

Marriage is not obsolete, however our morals and values are, marriage holds people to a high level of accountability when they don’t want to be Accountable for anything. No one wants to stay the course; we live in a disposable world where we don’t work at or on anything. People like to change partners like they change wireless companies.
It is really sad if you think about it.

Posted by: Truthat40 | November 19, 2010 12:58 PM | Report abuse

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