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Friend: Huguely 'obsessive' about Love

A friend of George Huguely who played lacrosse with with him in Landon School summer leagues told the New York Daily News that Huguely "partied really hard and when he was drunk or [expletive] up, he could be violent. He would get out of control."

Huguely, accused of the violent murder of his former girlfriend Yeardley Love, who played on the women's lacrosse team at the University of Virginia, was described by the summer league teammate as "obsessive," constantly texting Love to the point that people close to her worried about the relationship.

The Daily News reported that a former Virginia student who was friends with both Love and Huguely described a disturbing incident in which Huguely recently reportedly attacked Love, then had no recollection of it the next day, which precipitated their final breakup. "He was really messed up and punched a window of a car on the way over to her apartment that night," the friend said, speaking on the condition of anonymity out of consideration for Love's family. The friend said Huguely had been seen breaking bottles at another party before Love's death and had told people he was going to her apartment to get Love back.

By Lori Aratani  |  May 7, 2010; 7:45 AM ET
 
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"The friend said Huguely had been seen breaking bottles at another party before Love's death and had told people he was going to her apartment to get Love back."

This is the moment in which a partner who has broken off a relationship is in critical danger.

It is hard to read the above quote and not ask, "Why didn't anyone intervene to stop him? Why didn't someone alert authorities to Yeardley's danger?"

It's time to ask, on every college campus and in every municipality: how can young people be educated about the SIGNS of danger from intimate partner violence? And how can all of us make available the resources that young people KNOW about: so that signs of potential danger can be safely and reliably reported and addressed?

Yeardley would want to save others' lives.

If you feel that you, or someone you know, faces danger, CALL SOMEONE. Call 911. Or call the National Teen Dating Abuse Hotline at 1-866-331-9474 (1-866-331-8453 TTY).


Posted by: JenniferA11 | May 7, 2010 8:31 AM | Report abuse

Wow. WHAT A MOVIE! One morning the boy wakes up and he is a preppy, wealthy, athletic demigod and the next morning he wakes up and he is peicing together what happened to him. The rest of his life in prison will be sickening and heartwrenching. EVERY SINGLE CHILD IN AMERICA SHOULD SEE THIS "MOVIE" BEFORE COLLEGE!

Posted by: marylandmymaryland1 | May 7, 2010 9:46 AM | Report abuse

my god, put this monster's mother and father in jail too --- they're equally guilty

Posted by: bestmick1 | May 7, 2010 10:15 AM | Report abuse

JenniferA11 is exactly right. There is still a lack of awareness of the signs i.e. red flags that point to an abusive, possibly even sociopathic personality.

Punching objects, obsessiveness, possessiveness...is typical behavior of these types of personalities and it's exactly because are relentless and persuasive that it is sometimes difficult for their partners to leave them. Not only should people be made aware about these and other traits, they should be informed about the safest way to break off the relationship because that is exactly when the abuser is likely to become totally unhinged.

I consider myself fortunate to have broken off just such a relationship but amazingly there have been increasing indications that he is still stalking me. Amazing because it has been 13 years since then!

My heart goes out to Yeardley's family and friends.

Posted by: lexi757 | May 7, 2010 10:16 AM | Report abuse

His buddies knew how he acted - they are going to have to live with the guilt of that as well.

Posted by: smm4c2000 | May 7, 2010 10:22 AM | Report abuse

I agree with JenniferA11, but I also say that this friend should have stepped up. To many times were of things after the fact instead of hearing about people stepping up and stopping the situation. This young man needed intervention long ago or better yet a good d#@m smack up side the head.

Posted by: rlee4033 | May 7, 2010 10:29 AM | Report abuse

How is it that this WHITE boy was not ARRESTED for threatening to KILL a police officer?

Now someone is dead.

And to think WHITE folks want the world to believe discrimination does not exist.

Had that been a person of color threatening a police officer they would have gotten a beat down and put under the jail.

Now, because of protecting their own, a young beautiful person is dead.

Little too late for law enforcement to apply the law of the land equally to ALL its citizens.

Posted by: K2007 | May 7, 2010 10:30 AM | Report abuse

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