Archive: Relationships

Are You Too Sexy for Your Whisk?

You’ve planned a seduction with pie -- more than once. Your curry makes them hurry home. It’s not uncommon to find your dinner guests uncontrollably swooning between courses or lapping at your apron strings. My, what big tools you have...(Kim O'Donnel) And now, there’s a word for your kind -- gastrosexual. According to, a “gastrosexual” is a guy “who sees cooking as a hobby and not just a chore,” someone who uses his culinary skills to win friends (and more importantly) lovers. As a proud gastrosexual (actually I like to think of myself more of a temptress, known on a few continents for my morning-after apple coffee cake), I’m a bit flummoxed by the male-centric definition, as was radio cooking show host Lynne Rossetto Kasper, who had the presence of mind to rise above the soup scum and take gastrosexual matters into her own hands. In fact, “The Splendid...


By Kim ODonnel | April 14, 2009; 07:00 AM ET | Comments (8)

Mixed (Diet) Relationships: Can They Work?

Love has no rhyme or reason or even a calendar, but there's something magical about falling in love during spring. In his 1928 composition "Let's Do It, Let's Fall in Love," Cole Porter argues that falling in love is all part of Mother Nature's plan. When the little bluebird Who has never said a word Starts to sing Spring When the little bluebell At the bottom of the dell Starts to ring Ding dong Ding dong When the little blue clerk In the middle of his work Starts a tune to the moon up above It is nature that is all Simply telling us to fall in love But unlike the "Cold Cape Cod clams, 'gainst their wish" who do it, we human creatures have dating/mating checklists and criteria that go beyond the force of nature. For many, religion is the deal breaker; for others, it may be income, education,...


By Kim ODonnel | April 29, 2008; 10:55 AM ET | Comments (0)

Can One Marriage Sustain Two Diets?

Once upon a time, two people meet and get sweet on each other. They both like movies, books and many other items on the dating checklist which gets longer as one inches closer to middle age. But aside from politics, manners and clean fingernails, she needs to ascertain one important criterion before plunging deeper into this relationship: Is he a good eater? In this case, "good" means adventurous, open-minded and willing to try everything on the plate at least once. She shakes her head, thinking of the guy who added ketchup to all his food and then there was the ungrateful punk who had the nerve to critique the get-well soup she lovingly prepared and traveled across town to deliver. Harrumph. Many meals and relationship hurdles later, the two lovebirds decide to get married. She cooks; he eats and cleans up -- and starts to pack on the pounds. One...


By Kim ODonnel | July 10, 2007; 11:11 AM ET | Comments (22)

The Case of the Kitchen Barrel Nuts

Saturday afternoon, cloudy and cool. The television was on mute, set to a NASCAR race, and the future of my newly launched marriage hung in the balance over seven barrel nuts. Several hours and seven barrel nuts later, a beautiful kitchen cabinet. (Kim O'Donnel) In most every partnership, there's an Alpha persona of the handyman variety; in this relationship, there is no such superhero. We both lack the handy-man gene. The Case of The Seven Barrel Nuts involves one newly arrived "assembly-required" kitchen cabinet from Crate & Barrel. After assessing the dreary state of a slowly collapsing cookbook-jammed bookcase and acknowledging the lack of space for any of the lovely kitchen-esque wedding gifts parked under the dining table, I knew I had to act. In the midst of the excitement over my purchase, however, I ignored the fact that we newlyweds solved everything like a crossword puzzle - and that...


By Kim ODonnel | March 26, 2007; 01:58 PM ET | Comments (12)

Making Room for Another Cook

I am a bride in final countdown mode, and boy is it a peculiar place to be. On the one and (most obvious) hand, it's absolutely thrilling and exciting, to arrive at an emotional time and space that threads one's ever-evolving hopes and aspirations for long-haul partnership into a neat little package called a wedding day; on the other hand, it's positively terrifying for this long-time single gal who's run her own show into Year 40, to make room -- in her heart, her kitchen and her daily life - for another. Over the past few months, I've been processing many of these themes; some days, I get it -- the whole recipe of love and partnership -- like I understand a pie dough or a curry; other days, I get frantic, my vision gets blurry and I have no idea how to cook this thing called marriage. When it's...


By Kim ODonnel | February 23, 2007; 10:13 AM ET | Comments (0)


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