Calling All Supportive Dads

Hey everyone --

Every week or so, I will be asking for commentors to share how they balance their lives. So, if you are willing to let me interview you for this blog, send me your contact information.

This week, I'm looking for stay-at-home dads or sympathetic dads like Springfield Dad or Supportive Guy. If you want to talk about your thoughts on balancing work and family, let me know how to reach you. My e-mail is

By Leslie Morgan Steiner |  March 20, 2006; 8:15 AM ET  | Category:  Dads
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The answer is easy: except for a few biological things, dads are parents, too. Stop thinking of Mom and Dad as having to be different. They aren't. It's hard to be a parent and a family is lucky when they have two.

It's no more the responsibility of Dad to support a SAHM than it is for Mom to support Dad to be a SAHD.

Posted by: A Parent | March 20, 2006 3:42 PM

Again, men are characterized as an afterthought. They get ONE blog entry targeted to them. Big deal. Why is all of this (the book, the blog) being written as if husbands/fathers barely exist? Maybe b/c women buy more books and the publisher thinks it'll be more lucrative to market it only to women? Or is it b/c Ms. Morgan Steiner truly believes that different genders have different natural, inherent, defined roles to play in family life? Does she believe women just SHOULD be the primary caregivers by default, unless there's some unusual circumstance or 'role reversal' (how I hate that term) where the father is actually caring for his own children? Why?

Posted by: KayG | March 21, 2006 12:43 PM

It's completely within Leslie's realm of reasonable choice to narrow the scope of her book and blog to primarily cover moms. She's a mom, so why criticize that she write about something to which she can lend first hand experience? It's not her responsibility to cover the entire gambit of's her book/blog. The conflict between moms who work outside the home and moms who stay home with their children is real, on-going, and made for a nice anthology. Ta da.

I don't have kids, so I read this blog and its comments from the cheap-seats view...but man, the level of vitriolic criticism people reach in short order is stunning.

Posted by: Sasha | March 21, 2006 10:38 PM

I think it's still a reality that in many families, parenting it primariliy a female responsibility, so having a blog like this one makes sense. What would be really cool, would be if there was a Dad's blog as well, and maybe a parenting where they intermingle. Or maybe if the two authors tag-teamed once in a while for mixed perspective. If we keep treating Dad's like after-thoughts, then they'll continue to be an after thought.

Posted by: Katie | March 22, 2006 10:13 AM

"If we keep treating Dads like afterthoughts, then they'll continue to be an afterthought." Exactly. My point is that you further entrench the mom-is-chief-parent tradition, which is NOT good - puts too much burden on mothers and excludes/marginalizes fathers - by writing books and blogs focusing on mothers only, or with fathers as a mere footnote.

BTW, I don't have children either - I'm not even married! :) Just an interested observer that grew up with two very involved parents. Both are lawyers, and my father actually had a much shorter day/reasonable schedule than my mother (as a county prosecutor; she has her own law firm) so he often was the one to pick me up from school, take me places, watch over me when sick, etc. (I was also lucky to have grandparents nearby that often took care of me.) So this mom-takes-on-all-the-burdens thing is actually foreign to me, and I admit quite intriguing.

Posted by: KayG | March 22, 2006 10:40 AM

Apparently the men are scared of Leslie. I wonder why?

Posted by: Anonymous | March 22, 2006 3:07 PM

I don't think men are scared. They are just not here. On the blog. They are not that concerned about the issue. It's not THEIR issue, unfortunately. And until we make it theirs also, mom, working or at home, will have to bear most of the burdens.

Posted by: cg | March 22, 2006 6:00 PM

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