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Donald Brashear and the Consequences of Abuse

By Rebeldad Brian Reid

As many of you know, I've peppered my posts with hockey references for years. So I read Mike Wise's piece on the front page of the Post on Saturday with considerable interest. Wise profiled Donald Brashear, the Caps' "enforcer" and the go-to guy when it comes to on-ice fighting in defense of his teammates. The story tracks Brashear's childhood, in which he goes from abusive father to abusive stepfather to foster care, and how he is now estranged from his mother and siblings.

There's not much to comment on; the piece stands on its own as a testament to the lifelong effects of abuse. It's well worth the read.

Brian Reid writes about parenting and work-family balance. You can read his blog at rebeldad.com.

By Brian Reid |  May 4, 2009; 1:00 PM ET  | Category:  Discipline , Newsmakers
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Brian,

Your preaching to the choir.

Posted by: jezebel3 | May 4, 2009 1:14 PM | Report abuse

Brain:

Your preaching to the choir.

Posted by: jezebel3 | May 4, 2009 1:28 PM | Report abuse

Is there really anyone who is going to say abuse is good for kids?

Posted by: dennis5 | May 4, 2009 2:45 PM | Report abuse

Is there really anyone who is going to say abuse is good for kids?

Posted by: dennis5 | May 4, 2009 2:45 PM | Report abuse

Yup.

Posted by: jezebel3 | May 4, 2009 3:42 PM | Report abuse

"Is there really anyone who is going to say abuse is good for kids?"

Abusers just call it "discipline", which most parents generally accept as a good thing for kids. They justify beating, spanking, slapping (consequence for backtalk), biting their own kid (to teach their child not to bite), washing mouths out with soap, pulling kids along by their hair or ear, putting alcohol in the baby's bottle to get him to sleep, denying water to solve a bed wetting problem, putting hot pepper saus on the thumb of thumbsuckers, shoving a kid's face into their plate for slurping or shoveling their food, making children vomit by forcing them to eat their vegetables (or making teenagers eat cigarettes when they get caught smoking), locking kids out of the house for violating curfew, shaving their heads bald if they don't wash their hair, giving an unruly 6 year the elbow in the gut and pulling his feet out from under him to force them into a carseat as the temperature inside the car approaches a cool 130 degrees... The list goes on and on.

Abuse or effective parenting? You make the call.


Posted by: WhackyWeasel | May 5, 2009 9:09 AM | Report abuse

Heartbreaking story.

Posted by: goodhome631 | May 5, 2009 10:40 AM | Report abuse

Whacky, Are you implying that everything you listed you consider child abuse? Just asking.

Posted by: cheekymonkey | May 6, 2009 11:38 AM | Report abuse

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