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About a month ago, new parents in the neighborhood walked by our house. Their 12-day-old baby was shrieking in the stroller. Mom with bags under her eyes was walking slowly up the hill with her husband by her side. I asked her not about the baby, but about her. Clearly, she was in that angst-ridden early sleepless state that most of us wish we could forget. She told me that she was reading all she could to help her understand her beautiful new daughter.

When the baby was a month old, she and her husband walked by again. This time, her step was more purposeful, her bags were gone. The glazed look had turned to confidence. Once again, I asked her how she was doing. She said she was learning her daughter.

After the first conversation, I advised her to stop reading and trust herself. In the second conversation, it was clear that she did.

For many months now, I've known that The Post -- my work home for 11 years -- is no longer where my heart lies. Just like that new mom, I've been afraid to trust my instincts, afraid of the great unknown. As a journalist, I've been incredibly lucky to work for and with people who have believed in me and taken chances on me. Several years ago, before too many folks were writing about work-life balance, I persuaded my bosses that we really needed a blog that addressed the topic. Those conversations led to the development of On Balance. It was the first of many influences my life as a parent had on washingtonpost.com. Soon afterward, we launched a little known Parenting newsletter. But the topic didn't work well in a weekly newsletter where parents couldn't converse, we decided. It really needed to be a blog all its own.

What a daunting task! Figure out how to address issues for parents of kids from babyhood to 18. And so, On Parenting was born 2 1/2 years ago. We've had many amazing conversations during that time: how to choose a name, sore losers, breastfeeding, discipline, work-life balance, sexting, teen pregnancy, children on airplanes, special needs children. The list goes on and on. All the while, you wonderful readers have stuck with the blog. On good days and bad ones. Thank you.

Today, I'm off to the great unknown, to life as a recovering journalist. My co-writer, Brian Reid, will be taking over the helm here at On Parenting. In addition, for your reading and commenting pleasure, here are some of my favorite parenting and women's issues sites that have sprung up over the years, places that I frequent and where you might want to dabble as well: Lisa Belkin's Motherlode at the New York Times, The Juggle at the Wall Street Journal, Babble, Momversation, Slate's Double XX and MomLogic.

If any of you would like to stay in touch and learn more about my next chapter, you can reach me at onparenting@gmail.com. Happy parenting, everyone. Thanks for letting my family enter your worlds.

By Stacey Garfinkle |  August 24, 2009; 7:00 AM ET
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Comments


Thank you so much for your blog. As I became a mother my own mother was in the full throes of Alzheimer's and I lived in a new city with no motherly supports. As I had difficulty breastfeeding with a premature baby the nurse at the hospital actually said "It's not that hard. I've taught people a lot dumber than you." It is hearing about the struggles of parenting and knowing that somewhere someone had gone through the same thing that have been a huge help to me. Thanks for hanging in there through the positive and snarky comments.

Posted by: Wichitagirl | August 24, 2009 7:38 AM | Report abuse

My favorie parenting blog:

http://www.dcurbanmom.com

Posted by: jezebel3 | August 24, 2009 7:39 AM | Report abuse

Correction: My favorite parenting blog:

http://www.dcurbanmom.com

Posted by: jezebel3 | August 24, 2009 7:40 AM | Report abuse

Good luck with the new chapter Stacey. I'll miss reading you... But the blog is in good hands with Brian.
Lisa Belkin
Motherlode, The New York Times

Posted by: lisabelkin | August 24, 2009 8:14 AM | Report abuse

Thank you Stacey for providing a daily parenting topic for us moms, dads and childless alike to kick around. Your efforts entertained a pretty tough crowd and you stuck with it as long as anyone could expect. Good luck on your future journalistic endeavor and best wishes to those boys of yours.

Posted by: WhackyWeasel | August 24, 2009 8:24 AM | Report abuse

Thanks Stacey for a very entertaining and sometimes educational blog. Good luck to you and your family for all of your future endeavors.

And slightly off topic - thanks to all the posters who gave me such great advice about traveling with my two year old! The drive went much better than I expected thanks in part to all of you.

Posted by: VaLGaL | August 24, 2009 8:34 AM | Report abuse

Bye, Stacey, and good luck with your next endeavor.

Posted by: newsahm | August 24, 2009 8:37 AM | Report abuse

By Stacey and good luck. You did a good job. This is a tough crowd.

Posted by: foamgnome | August 24, 2009 8:43 AM | Report abuse

Thanks, Stacey - your columns were really helpful to me. It's always interesting to see how different people feel about different issues. Good luck in the future!

Posted by: Stormy1 | August 24, 2009 8:53 AM | Report abuse

Congratulations, Stacy! I will miss your contributions and insight. I, too, am a recovering journalist--those instincts will never really die, but you'll find a way to channel them into different kinds of work. Good luck, and keep writing!

Posted by: sjneal | August 24, 2009 9:14 AM | Report abuse

Good bye and thanks for all the fish.

BB

Posted by: FairlingtonBlade | August 24, 2009 10:17 AM | Report abuse

I started reading this blog when I began dating a man with small children. Reading your posts and the different perspectives of the commenters helped enormously to prepare me for the sudden parenthood of being a stepmom. Despite the trolls I've learned a lot here, and I'm sad to see you go. But along with all the other posters I wish you the best of luck!

Posted by: auntieW | August 24, 2009 10:30 AM | Report abuse

This blog's been around for 2.5 years? No kidding! That means I discovered it around the time it came into existence. I had my second child almost 3 years ago and because my older child was twelve years older, I needed help with both. Your blog provided the help I needed. I've loved it, benefited from the topics and the contributions from your dedicated audience.

Good luck in your next endeavor.

It's me, Happy. Sad to see you leave.

Happy!

Posted by: TTCP | August 24, 2009 11:19 AM | Report abuse

So long, Stacie. Have fun storming the castle. We'll miss you.

Posted by: laura33 | August 24, 2009 11:33 AM | Report abuse

Sorry, umm, Stacey, not Stacie. Monday morning brain fart.

Posted by: laura33 | August 24, 2009 11:33 AM | Report abuse

fr wichitagirl:

>...As I had difficulty breastfeeding with a premature baby the nurse at the hospital actually said "It's not that hard. I've taught people a lot dumber than you." ...

I'd have reported THAT so-called "nurse" in a heartbeat, and DEMANDED a different one. That "nurse" had no excuse whatsoever for that kind of attitude.

Posted by: Alex511 | August 24, 2009 12:01 PM | Report abuse

Wichitagirl: I'm so glad that you found your much needed support here. I'm slightly partial to preemies, as I was one way back in 1970! Good luck to you and thanks for reading.

Posted by: StaceyGarfinkle | August 24, 2009 1:11 PM | Report abuse

WhackyWeasel: You are welcome. Thanks for all your contributions over the years.

Posted by: StaceyGarfinkle | August 24, 2009 1:12 PM | Report abuse

VaLGaL: Thanks for your comment. So glad to hear your trip went so well!

Posted by: StaceyGarfinkle | August 24, 2009 1:13 PM | Report abuse

newsahm and foamgnome: Thanks for comments.

Posted by: StaceyGarfinkle | August 24, 2009 1:15 PM | Report abuse

Good luck, Stacey. I'm sure you have guts of steel after your tenure here! You can handle anything you throw yourself into!

Posted by: atb2 | August 24, 2009 1:15 PM | Report abuse

Stormy1: It's always nice to hear that you helped someone. Thanks for giving me that today.

Posted by: StaceyGarfinkle | August 24, 2009 1:16 PM | Report abuse

sjneal: Thanks! It's good to know there are other recovering journalists who've found their way out there. While I'm working on my next project, I decided recovering journalist is a better introduction about myself than SAHM!

Posted by: StaceyGarfinkle | August 24, 2009 1:18 PM | Report abuse

auntieW and TTCP: So glad you found the help you needed here.

Posted by: StaceyGarfinkle | August 24, 2009 1:20 PM | Report abuse

laura33: No worries, Laura; I'm used to people spelling my name wrong. I'll miss all of you as well.

Posted by: StaceyGarfinkle | August 24, 2009 1:21 PM | Report abuse

Stacey,

Thank you for all your hard work. I'm sure you have helped many, many mothers and fathers along the way.

Best of luck in the future,

Vincent O'Keefe

Posted by: vincent030 | August 24, 2009 1:26 PM | Report abuse

Thanks for a peek inside your world. I learned a lot. And I laughed a lot. Best wishes.

Posted by: jezebel3 | August 24, 2009 1:31 PM | Report abuse

Stacey --

Thanks for everything you've done over the past 3+ years -- both on this site and beyond -- to make the washingtonpost.com a hotbed of information and commentary. Boy, do I ever have big shoes to fill.

-- Brian

Posted by: rebeldad | August 24, 2009 2:33 PM | Report abuse

Best wishes with your new career path, Stacey! Although you might refer to yourself as a 'recovering' journalist, I believe that your cumulative experience here and writing in other forums has been valuable and meaningful in ways you may not understand. As someone who has changed careers before (and is about to embark on a new job in the coming weeks), I promise that you will be pleasantly surprised at how your time here will resonate and prove useful.

I appreciate what you've shared about your own family, and how you've shown grace under pressure when the snarky comments were flying.

Best wishes,
Karen

Posted by: HuckleberryFriend | August 24, 2009 5:26 PM | Report abuse

I'm not a parent. While I have some mixed feelings about that, the fact is I have to deal with people who are all the time. This column & your work has helped me do that. Thank you.

Posted by: timscanlon | August 24, 2009 7:34 PM | Report abuse

Bon voyage, Stacey! Your blog has been funny, informative, and a link to sanity for a lot of us, and you handled the job well even when a topic had the fur flying! Your insights will be missed, but you left the ship in capable hands! Best of luck in your future endeavors, and may the winds of change blow good tidings your way! We'll miss you!

Posted by: dragondancer1814 | August 25, 2009 3:57 PM | Report abuse

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