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What Working Mother's attack on custody says about dads

When I first became an at-home dad, way back in 2002, I was sure I was part of an exploding trend. The number of at-home dads seemed to be growing exponentially, and all the signs pointed to continued growth. That was what it felt like. The reality was somewhat different....

By Brian Reid | November 20, 2009; 07:00 AM ET | Comments (145)

How do you raise kids who aren't bystanders?

A week ago, a 15-year-old California girl was raped and beaten by several people for 2 hours outside of a high school homecoming dance. The horror of the crime is almost too much for me to take in. In a case like this, no matter how much I think about...

By Brian Reid | November 3, 2009; 07:00 AM ET | Comments (30)

Reflecting on past -- and future -- Cabbage Nights

It was in about eighth grade that the late-October talk in homeroom began to focus on "Cabbage Night," rather than Halloween. Cabbage Night -- known elsewhere as Mischief Night and Devil's Night -- in my hometown was an opportunity for modest rule-breaking and low-level vandalism. Parents were fed cover stories,...

By Brian Reid | October 30, 2009; 07:00 AM ET | Comments (24)

The Sketchy Science on Spanking

Last month, I said that I wanted to be more science-driven in the way that I look at parenthood, rather than accepting conventional wisdom just because it's conventional wisdom. But that's easier said than done. There remain plenty of aspects of parenting that seem straightforward enough that I don't see...

By Brian Reid | October 16, 2009; 07:00 AM ET | Comments (42)

When Saying Yes is the Right Thing to Do

In the single-dad drama "The Boys Are Back," Clive Owen -- who plays a father grappling with the loss of his wife -- approaches most of his parenting decisions by relying on three simple words: Just say yes. He says yes to whatever his 7-year-old boy wants to eat. He...

By Jen Chaney | October 1, 2009; 08:30 AM ET | Comments (22)

Turning Controversies Into Teaching Moments

Kanye West, demonstrating that he needs a time-out. (AP) As parents, we all know that sometimes our kids have a hard time keeping quiet. But the past week has demonstrated that even high-profile, grown-up, public figures don't always know when to shut-up. It started last Wednesday with Rep. Joe...

By Jen Chaney | September 16, 2009; 09:15 AM ET | Comments (16)

Donald Brashear and the Consequences of Abuse

By Rebeldad Brian Reid As many of you know, I've peppered my posts with hockey references for years. So I read Mike Wise's piece on the front page of the Post on Saturday with considerable interest. Wise profiled Donald Brashear, the Caps' "enforcer" and the go-to guy when it comes...

By Brian Reid | May 4, 2009; 01:00 PM ET | Comments (7)

Mom Kicks Kids Out of the Car, Gets Arrested

A mom in White Plains, N.Y., was fed up with her daughters' bickering in the car. And so, in a fit of what was likely parental desperation, she kicked the girls, ages 10 and 12, out of the car 3 miles from home. Is the act one of minor stupidity...

By Stacey Garfinkle | April 23, 2009; 10:36 AM ET | Comments (16)

No-Pill Tolerance Rules

The scenario presented in The Washington Post over the weekend is fairly simple: Teenage girl takes a birth control pill at lunchtime in a Fairfax County High School. Girl gets caught. Girl gets a two-week suspension along with a recommendation for expulsion. Why such a harsh punishment for a prescribed...

By Stacey Garfinkle | April 7, 2009; 07:00 AM ET | Comments (88)

"No Touch" -- Again

Here we go again... Middle schoolers in Connecticut have become the latest test cases in a "no-touch" rule being enforced. The whole brouhaha began when a groin-kicking incident at East Shore Middle School sent a child to the hospital. The school responded by sending a letter home to parents that...

By Stacey Garfinkle | March 31, 2009; 07:00 AM ET | Comments (35)

Mother Yeller

Hi, my name is Leah Ariniello and I am a yeller. I wondered if I had a problem when a few years back my son came home from preschool with the task of making up a riddle. “What looks like a horse, has black and white stripes and can be...

By Stacey Garfinkle | March 3, 2009; 07:00 AM ET | Comments (68)

Are You an Extreme Parent?

Remember mean mom Jane Hambleton? Back in January of last year, she became the coolest mom by selling her son's car after discovering alcohol in the car. The ad that ran at the time was this: "OLDS 1999 Intrigue. Totally uncool parents who obviously don't love teenage son, selling his...

By Stacey Garfinkle | February 19, 2009; 01:44 PM ET | Comments (40)

Hitting: Is Retaliation Ever in Order?

By Rebeldad Brian Reid Last week, DaddyTypes stumbled across an absolute gem of a first-person piece from 1972, a New York Magazine piece that gave a comprehensive assessment of NYC playgrounds and the tolerance for hitting at each park. The piece is of the opinion that there isn't anything wrong...

By Brian Reid | January 29, 2009; 07:00 AM ET | Comments (56)

No vs. Yes

There's a new campaign from the National Institute on Media and the Family: Say Yes to No. The argument is that we are living in a "yes" culture different from that of previous generations. We want something, we want it now and we get instant gratification. The "Say Yes to...

By Stacey Garfinkle | January 28, 2009; 07:00 AM ET | Comments (52)

Has Obama Discipline Struck Your House?

Since Barack Obama became president-elect, parents around the world have been naming babies after him. All eyes have been following which school his girls would attend (Sidwell Friends) and which kind of puppy he and his family will choose (he likes big dogs). And some parents have been holding him...

By Stacey Garfinkle | December 15, 2008; 07:00 AM ET | Comments (21)

'Spare the Rod, Spoil the Child' Still a Reality

By Rebeldad Brian Reid The other day, during the school registration process, I heard a great-grandmother telling the tale of how she successfully raised nine children. Most of the parenting advice she dished was outstanding and had to do with setting boundaries and enforcing them, which is, in 2008, probably...

By Brian Reid | August 29, 2008; 07:00 AM ET | Comments (85)

Time Out for Timeouts

The first time I used a timeout to discipline my son, it was quite effective. At age 1-1/2, he kept trying to play with the knobs on the stove even though I'd said no. So I sat him in a corner for a minute. Sure, he cried. After all, he...

By Stacey Garfinkle | August 26, 2008; 07:00 AM ET | Comments (215)

Ten of Cinema's Most Clueless Parents

Today, Jen Chaney -- washingtonpost.com movies editor, DVD columnist and mother to an 18-month-old -- weighs in with a guest post. There was a moment in the often over-the-top, doobie-filled comedy "Pineapple Express" that I found impossible to believe. It wasn't the fact that Danny McBride's character survived multiple gunshot...

By Jen Chaney | August 15, 2008; 07:00 AM ET | Comments (94)

Sorry, Firstborns

"You've got it easy. You're the baby." I got that line ALL the time when I was growing up. And I never agreed with it. Mom punished me plenty. And by the third child, she was pretty wise to the things I'd try to pull. Then again, I can't think...

By Stacey Garfinkle | April 18, 2008; 07:00 AM ET | Comments (20)

How to Handle 'Challenging' Children

Sometimes, my oldest son and I butt heads. He's sweet, empathetic and loved by his teachers -- and parents, for that matter. He listens well outside the home. But come inside, and stubborn meets stubborn. Maybe it's the mistakes some of us make with firstborns or maybe we're just too...

By Stacey Garfinkle | March 25, 2008; 07:00 AM ET | Comments (0)

Disciplining Someone Else's Kid

Scene No. 1: The end of a celebration dinner with good friends. Two best friend 4-year-olds, mine and our friends' son, run around the restaurant. I round them up and make them sit against the wall, refusing to let them get up. I talk with them about how the other...

By Stacey Garfinkle | February 22, 2008; 07:00 AM ET | Comments (0)

'Mean' Moms and Dads Unite

"Mommy, you're mean." Those words have popped out of 6-year-old's mouth plenty of times. And when I hear them, I know that my punishment is working and I'm doing my job. Recently, Jane Hambleton of Iowa earned the monikor "meanest mom" for selling her son's car. Hambleton placed the following...

By Stacey Garfinkle | January 14, 2008; 07:00 AM ET | Comments (0)

 

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