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Where is Tiger's backbone?

Too bad Tiger Woods doesn’t have a Rhett Butler advising him. Gone with the Wind fans are familiar with how Rhett wouldn’t let Scarlett O’Hara hide out after she was caught in an embarrassing moment with her erstwhile Ashley. Not only did Rhett make Scarlett appear at a big party, but he also insisted she wear a red dress that wouldn’t allow her to go unnoticed. No matter how shameful her behavior, Rhett would not let her shirk from the public.

Seems to me that’s advice Tiger could use as his popularity plummets and his endorsements disappear in the wake of disclosures he was serially unfaithful to his wife. By no means am I condoning Tiger’s really bad -- not to mention inexplicably stupid -- behavior. But what is to be gained by his cowardly retreat to the shadows?

I don’t buy the argument that he needs the time to work on his relationship with his wife. The way to do that is to stop sleeping with cocktail waitresses, rather than to stop doing your job. And the latter, in essence, is what Tiger is doing with his indefinite hiatus from golf.

Bill Clinton got grudging kudos when he delivered a flawless state of the union speech as the Monica Lewinsky scandal swirled around him. Actor Hugh Grant, caught with a prostitute, knew the first step in public redemption had to be facing up to the public. Likewise, David Letterman’s forthright handling of his affair probably limited the damage.

Tiger Woods acted abominably. He cheated on his wife and family, and he misled the public into thinking he was something he wasn’t. But the one thing honest about him is his ability to play superb golf. If he ever wants to be respected again, he needs to show he has the backbone to get up and go on.

By Jo-Ann Armao  | December 14, 2009; 1:37 PM ET
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why 'serially unfaithful'? In addition to the likelihood that he was actually unfaithful-in-parallel, why not just 'persistently' or 'frequently' unfaithful?

Posted by: HardyW | December 14, 2009 1:54 PM | Report abuse

I see a lot of women making this argument. Tell me, why does Tiger Woods owe you ANYTHING? Don't worry... you can get back to me on that one.

Posted by: unpluggedboodah | December 14, 2009 2:00 PM | Report abuse

Woods' leave of absense won't last long, his sponsers will insist on quick return after appropriate deloucing. I suspect it will be a Bay Hill where Arnold Paler will adminester the deloucing and then renew Woods' Good Housing Seal of Approval.

Posted by: jdonner2 | December 14, 2009 2:03 PM | Report abuse

He's never really had to face tough questions because he controlled everything. Or his people did. Now he's lost control and is scared.

Posted by: FLvet | December 14, 2009 2:05 PM | Report abuse

Go Tiger, ignore all these bored housewives. Good for you.

Posted by: unpluggedboodah | December 14, 2009 2:07 PM | Report abuse

I think that everyone agrees that Tiger is being a serial idiot.

It will be interesting if it comes out that this is all due to some medication or other.

Posted by: dubya1938 | December 14, 2009 2:14 PM | Report abuse

Amen, Sistah! C'mon Tiger. Man up! Step out and say it loud and proud: "Ah'm a ho, you know Ah'm a ho. How do you know? Cuz Ah told you so!"

Hiding is for punks! Get out there, hold your head high and continue to dish out large cans of WHUP-AZZ on the golf course like you always do. Accenture can keep their crooked Enron money!

Posted by: repubsux | December 14, 2009 2:35 PM | Report abuse

There is probably nothing Tiger can do at this point short of immolation that will satisfy his detractors. And, even then, I'm sure a few people would say the fire wasn't hot enough.

Posted by: EnemyOfTheState | December 14, 2009 2:39 PM | Report abuse

The "golden hour" for emerging from this turmoil and scandal has passed on Saturday after Thanksgiving. Too late for Mr. Woods. Please just stay's better this way.

Posted by: LouisianaVirginian | December 14, 2009 2:49 PM | Report abuse

Also, what kind of a role model doesn't cooperate with the police?

Posted by: rickahert | December 14, 2009 3:18 PM | Report abuse

I'm not sure that Mr. Woods owes us any explanation beyond what he gave. He has no obligation to me or most people here; if they bought products or services he endorsed, it's up to them to decide they should buy it because he's a great golfer getting paid to endorse the product, or that they believe he brought to their attention a good product that they decided they should buy it.

What Mr. Clinton, Mr. Grant or Mr. Letterman did to counter bad publicity (or whatever you want to call it) was up to them; Mr. Woods, like Mr. Roosevelt, Mr. Eisenhower, and Mr. Johnson, has no obligation to approach resolution they way some of us want him to, or in ways we know he must approach resolution. Just as your next door neighbor or co-worker doesn't have to grovel in front of us, neither does Mr. Woods. If you don't like the products he endorses, don't buy them. But if they're good products, be them vehicles, investment services, or spectator golf, why would you not buy the product just because Mr. Woods did something? Are they now bad products?

Mr. Woods may have acted abominably, he may have cheated on his wife and family, but I disagree that "he misled the public into thinking he was something he wasn’t." He was, as the original post said, had the ability to play superb golf, which he did for us and for himself (us as spectators, he as a professional getting paid for doing it. How was I mislead? I enjoyed his golf; he played the game to win which he did more often than others. That's not misleading me. He didn't tell me that the Buick or anything else was the one and only best of it's kind; he simply brought it to my attention that this was a good something or other; he didn't mislead me; if anything, if I had questions about what he was "selling" me, what he was endorsing, I should be smart enough to check it out to see that it's what I want and that it's worth what I'm paying.

And, if and when he returns to golf, all I expect from him, if I pay for a ticket to watch him, is for him to be competitive to the best of his ability. That's all he owes me.

Posted by: Dungarees | December 14, 2009 3:23 PM | Report abuse

Regarding: "...what kind of a role model doesn't cooperate with the police?"

There was and is no requirement for him to speak to the police. He had every legal right, as you and I have, to not answer any questions, nor, for that matter, to meet with them. If he was subpoenaed, it would have been different; he was not and he did all that he was required to do. Just as it was all you or I would have to do under the same circumstances.

If you're suggesting that he should have said things that he wasn't legally required to, are you suggesting that police can and should stop you or anyone else to ask questions you're not required to answer?

Posted by: Dungarees | December 14, 2009 3:29 PM | Report abuse

Not only were Tiger Woods acts abominable they were IMMORAL ACTS of the WORST kind.

Why? because he intentionally engaged in acts which reason says are wrong for a person who is committed to another to engage in. In other words he used free will against right reason. This is a corruption against the human person.

Then he doesn't just do it once, but he tries to rationalize his repeated immoral behavior to himself, and then uses his free will to intentionally deceive his wife and family, his business partners, and the world.

But I do give Tiger credit because in his statement he recognizes that he has reflect on his actions. How he came to think these actions were right actions when reason clearly shows they are not. How he was unable to place his emotions and passions under the control of reason.

Tiger has the opportunity to rightly align his reason, passions, and free will and demonstrate this to his and wife and family. If he is able to do so, it is my opinion that this action would be a greater example worthy of a role model than anything he can do on the golf course.

Posted by: kthhken | December 14, 2009 3:42 PM | Report abuse

To regain the trust of your wounded spouse is a 24/365 job, or maybe longer.

Posted by: ThishowIseeit | December 14, 2009 3:49 PM | Report abuse

I don't think they'll get back together. That's an awful lot of women he cheated with, and Elin was about to whopp on Tiger.

He's too young, and Elin can't keep her man but she'll still be a rich housewife living in the lap of luxury for as long as she has those kids, and the kids will always be rich.

Elin is only 28 or 29 years old. She find a better man, and I don't think there are many girls who would even touch Tiger, especially without him wearing condoms.

Who know what kind of bug Tiger has.

Posted by: lindalovejones | December 14, 2009 4:12 PM | Report abuse

who cares? except the people that make a living writing these kinds of articles and those that profit from internet traffic. total ruin for TW means $500 million and umbrella drinks for the rest of his life. his wife and kids and their kids will never have to do without. meanwhile real tragedy goes unreported. but here we are once again obsessed with how a few rich celebrities are going to make it through a "crisis". Maybe next we can expect a WP piece on the tattoos of TW's women? but maybe not because that would entail some degree of investigative journalism.

Posted by: horace1 | December 14, 2009 4:30 PM | Report abuse

People please! Why do you need to know about Tiger Woods sex life and his affairs. He did not become famous because of his sex appeal; he became famous because he is good at the profession of GOLF. He introduced a new generation of young people to the old tried sport of golf. Without Tiger the game of golf would never have been so entertaining and fulfilling. Golf has become a international sport.

Now the problem as I see it is twofold - first, this was a young cocky black man (blacasian-whatever!) beating a group of old tired white men at the game they invented. Tiger beat them at their game! Second, he became a billionaire and is now married to a white blonde wife.

Having said all that the industry needs Tiger as much as Tiger needs the industry. Not only that but Tiger has created a number of programs and projects to support the young people in the poor neighborhoods.

We American are so conservative with our attitudes when it comes to having affairs. It takes two people to have an affair - so women please learn to say NO! Just Say NO TO MARRIED MEN!

When Tiger identified himself as a blacasian I lost respect and stopped watching him perform. I gained a little of it back when I watched a documentary about him and a project he paid for to support a group of inner city project kids.

Posted by: sun52shine | December 14, 2009 4:49 PM | Report abuse

My goodness. There's nothing like a Wash. Post comment to initiate nausea. The comments by unpluggedoodah and repubsux are simply deplorable. By the way, repubsux user ID is about as gross as what Tiger did. Tiger's actions (which border on the pathological) and these comments are unredeemable. But I'm confidant that for you, your hero Tiger is now a super hero. Pathetic, your name is sports hero worshiper.

Posted by: david-mckenzie | December 14, 2009 5:08 PM | Report abuse

Lets compare: Tiger
Famous/rich man w/ nice guy image check
Cheats on his wife w/ trashy women check
Hides from photgrapers check
Post runs dozens of stories check

John "two America's" Edwards
Famouse/rich man etc check
Cheats deathly ill wife w/trash check
Hides from photograpers in hotel bathroom check
Lies numerous times on national tv check
Has a baby he denies (clearly his) check
Post does absoult minimum coverage check

You call yourself a newspaper? What office did Tiger run for?
Edwards was almost VP for goodness sake.

Posted by: j751 | December 14, 2009 5:27 PM | Report abuse

Mr. Mackenzie, perhaps you should consider posting under an assumed name. You are embarrassing yourself...

Posted by: jerkhoff | December 14, 2009 5:31 PM | Report abuse

It's his and his wife's business. He doesn't owe the public anything but a good game of golf when he decides to play.

Posted by: rlj1 | December 14, 2009 6:10 PM | Report abuse

What a foolish editorial!
His fame is based on his personal talents and success on the golf course. This makes him completely different from a politician or a comedian on TV. If he has destroyed his own marriage and jeopardized the future of his own children, that will have a much greater impact on his life than missing the next several golf tournaments. He's better off spending his time now at home.

Posted by: rjc116 | December 14, 2009 6:23 PM | Report abuse

Tiger is a golfer and the best there is in
the game today. If and when he returns he should hold a news conference and advise all present that he will only talk about or take questions pertaining to GOLF.We don't need or deserve to know anymore details about his infidelity. It is none of your business.

Posted by: cgray0 | December 14, 2009 6:39 PM | Report abuse

I agree he needs to man up and go back to work. He doesn't owe me or anyone anything but I agree he should stiffen his upper lip and go back to work. Golf defines him. That is who he is. Go out there and do your thing and take whatever is dished out and move on. Just what exactly is he going to do around the house all day?

Posted by: nelmsmn | December 14, 2009 6:42 PM | Report abuse

Mislead? MISLEAD? Were you also mislead by Milli Vinilli? Are you saying that you were mislead by his half-Asian side to only to find out he had an African-American (in this case, Black) side, too? What exactly blinded you to his humanness? What color were your glasses? MisLEAD? MISlead? Finish this sentence: "Before the infidelities, I saw Tiger Woods as _____; since then, I see him as ______."

Posted by: mukazzi | December 14, 2009 6:58 PM | Report abuse

He turned out to be, simply, an n-word.

Posted by: tjhall1 | December 14, 2009 7:18 PM | Report abuse

Hey armao, are you applying for a job with People Ragazine or USA Today???. Why don't you write about something important??? Tigger isn't important. He is just another overpaid jock. TFL, Ken

Posted by: kentigereyes | December 14, 2009 7:27 PM | Report abuse

It's interesting, disgusting, and predictable how all the media leeches always come around to declaring that Tiger Woods should do a Mao era-style public self-flagelation. He's a golfer, not a moral beacon. He has no obligation to the public, or to the news sources that shamelessly feed its superficial tastes, to provide them with the ammunition that will only prolong the "news."

Posted by: Freethinker2 | December 14, 2009 8:04 PM | Report abuse

Tiger was kind of the king of golf, for a while, but even kings fall from popularity, depending on their reputation. His wife probably finally got sick of having to take a number to see her husband, and, upon detecting perfume not her own, suspicions aroused, started asking questions, consulted with lawyers, and now has an island off the coast of Sweden or something.

Tiger is/was a globe-trottin, club-swingin' money-makin', celebrity sensation. A lot of people looked up to him, a clean-cut, hard-working success story. But, in the real world of fractured fairy tales, when the King is dead on the throne from a drug overdose, priests, parents, politicians, and others finally show their real selves behind the facade, the public gets disillusioned with their champion, as it were, and then it's Weekly World News from that point forward. That's good, though. It shows that Tiger is human, and not a golf-bot. Now that the Stepfordian gloss is gone, he can act like other, normal, less-than-perfect people. Now he can eat lots of pizza, have a big beer gut, and be the pimp daddy of golf, finally get those solid gold hubcaps for the Caddy, tin the windows, rig up the hydraulics, big foam dice, turn up the stererereo, and roast a big fattie before he starts a tournament, chicks in thong bikinis in the car, two turntables and a cooler of 40's on the tailgate, diamonds on his teeth, maybe even make his own rap album. Who really needs endorsements from sponsors when you've got a billion dollars and your own jet airplane? Life in the fast lane...

Posted by: walkerbert | December 14, 2009 8:29 PM | Report abuse

this golfer could not show his face 'cause it is covered with bumps, lumps and scratches, give him time to heal.
to the poster who suggest that no one will sleep with this golfer again since he refuses to wear condoms, are you kidding me? there will always be skanky, nasty white "waitresses" who will lay down with any man with two dimes to rub together.

Posted by: ninnafaye | December 14, 2009 8:31 PM | Report abuse

Rhett's advice to Tiger might be: "With enough courage, you can do without a reputation."

Posted by: dev45 | December 14, 2009 8:51 PM | Report abuse

Yeah some role model he was-in addition to being a serial philanderer, (perhaps he had a dream to star in a porn flick or too?) he ALSO has a problem with drugs-the HOSPITAL NOTED "OD" ON HIS CHART.

What a flim-flam artist he was! Go to hell Tiger-I note that Elin is no longer wearing her wedding ring-good! Take his millions and run!

Posted by: arrabbiato | December 14, 2009 9:27 PM | Report abuse

Tiger shouldn't worry. Bill Clinton made the majority of his vast fortune after the creative use of a cigar and an intern in the Oval Office. And Tiger has more than his good looks to lean on.

Posted by: JoeTH | December 14, 2009 9:34 PM | Report abuse

Tiger has never had to play for the rent money. He started as a pro golfer with a forty million dollar Nike contract.
When he tees up in his next tournament with alimony or a bought off wife, a multi-million mansion being built and a multi-million dollar boat, he may not be able to swing the club.
With his sponsors gone he will now have to win to eat.

Posted by: cperrym | December 14, 2009 10:22 PM | Report abuse

This entire media circus is silly. Seems to me that Tiger did what numerous athletes, actors, rock stars and others engage in frequently. This is not to condone his affairs while hiding them from his wife, but really, did she expect fidelity. Tiger simply married too young, and quite frankly, for the "image". For that, he is paying the price. Finally, using Rhett Butler as an example is quite funny, since Rhett consorted with prostitutes regularly and was "not a gentleman". In the gentile discourse of the earlier twentieth century (or the Civil War era - take your pick) this meant "consorting" with others out of wedlock. I am frequently amazed at how prudish (and unrealistic regarding sexual matters) our general society is with all of this tut, tut, tut over these types of liasons. You would think that Puritanism is making a comeback.

Posted by: fwillyhess | December 14, 2009 10:32 PM | Report abuse

you are right dungarees.

Tiger owes no one anything except his wife. He should apologize to her, get a divorce, and move on.

Posted by: jackson641 | December 14, 2009 10:33 PM | Report abuse

I don't think Tiger Woods has a problem growing anything, let alone a "spine."

Isn't that what got him in trouble in the first place?

Posted by: helloisanyoneoutthere | December 15, 2009 12:00 AM | Report abuse

Tiger may well need a hiatus from golf. Hell, lady, that dude has been performing like a super stud if all the media reports about his personal life are true. He needs some rest to give his body a break and clear his mind. But then evidently it is not his brain he has been thinking with.

Posted by: johntu | December 16, 2009 11:52 PM | Report abuse

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