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New Letter Shows Sanford Expected Public Shame

At least Mark Sanford got one thing right: he predicted that his affair with his Argentine girlfriend would result in public humiliation.

Sanford made his prediction in a letter he wrote to his religious adviser, Warren "Cubby" Culbertson, before he traveled to Argentina (a.k.a., hiked the Appalachian Trail) in June, according to The Associated Press.

The AP was able to obtain a copy of the letter through a public records request as Sanford wrote the letter from his state computer on May 20. That was several weeks before his wife, Jenny Sanford, moved out of the governor's mansion with their four boys.

"I simply beg for the chance to figure it ought (sic) privately, please beg her for just the first month after the kids get out of school and if I cant get this done then there will be plenty of time for public humiliation and showing the world I am the guy in the wrong," Sanford reportedly wrote.

In his note to Culbertson, Sanford spoke of his wife growing "more and more frustrated with my heart not being right and says simply that I am not trying," according to the AP.

"The one part where my heart at this point is not where I wish it was is with Jenny. She is a great girl, great mom, great wife and best friend and I am committed to her in a commitment sense, but my heart is just not alive here as it ought to be," he wrote.

Read the rest of the letter here.

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It is a telling statement about the Republican party that "Hiking the Appalachian Trail" (nudge, nudge...if you know what I mean) of a month ago is actually MORE sane than their latest incarnation.


Posted by: Hawaiiexpat | July 30, 2009 10:29 PM | Report abuse

I keep wondering how the girlfriend could justify helping to break up a home which had four kids. I also wonder what Sanford thought the outcome of this affair would in the way it influenced his family.
This story seems to be a real tragedy and it looks like Sanford just doesn't get it.

Posted by: OhMy | July 31, 2009 2:30 AM | Report abuse

What does "I am committed to her in a commitment sense" even mean?

What a sad sack.

Posted by: dadada | July 31, 2009 4:46 AM | Report abuse

This is how the governor of South Carolina expresses himself? Can't he put a coherent sentence together? The grammar and style are atrocious. My 9 year-old daughter could write a better text. Citizens of the great state of South Carolina, I salute you!!

Posted by: lafayette89 | July 31, 2009 6:40 AM | Report abuse

Amen to lafayette89. It is incoherent. It sounds like he's in genuine anguish, though. His lies and cheating had caught up with him, but he was still trying to come out ahead somehow. When you have that stew of denial and rationalization in your head, this is what comes out. His apology later was somewhat clearer.

Posted by: msh41 | July 31, 2009 10:20 AM | Report abuse

It is terribly sad and scary to think that Mark Sanford was actually considered Presidential timber by the Republican Party leaders as recently as April of 2009. How could the voters of the great State of South Carolina have elected such an intellectually dishonest man to become their Governor?

Posted by: NasserPazirandeh | July 31, 2009 10:25 AM | Report abuse

Well, sure he lied. Sure he kept a record of it in a place the press could access. Sure he's a complete moral hypocrite. But there's an R after his name, and that means that he's above the law, above reproach. He's a scumbag but he's OUR scumbag. Because we're the party of family values and morality and we don't have to follow the rules we make.


Posted by: dfc102 | July 31, 2009 11:22 AM | Report abuse

"scary to think that Mark Sanford was actually considered Presidential timber by the Republican Party leaders" It's no more scary than the group they attempted to foist upon us for the last presidential election. It also speaks to the source of a number of related challenges the Grand Old Party faces to once again become relevant. I hope we can unload the "situators" and find some real leaders.

Posted by: JamesA10 | July 31, 2009 12:20 PM | Report abuse

Looks like we can add illiteracy to his list of shortcomings.

Posted by: Dieterman | July 31, 2009 12:32 PM | Report abuse

I second previous commenters: he sounds like a semi-literate teenage girl on Facebook. What a joke.

Posted by: Sam888 | July 31, 2009 12:37 PM | Report abuse

And just when will the high, mighty and righteous Limbaugh, Hannity, Beck and O'Reilly
push for this unfaithful father of four to be impeached?

Posted by: lufrank1 | July 31, 2009 1:14 PM | Report abuse

It looks as though his wife used to do his writing for him.

Posted by: KellyRoney | July 31, 2009 3:06 PM | Report abuse

biggerjake wrote: I personally hope this story never goes away.


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Posted by: opp88 | July 31, 2009 4:27 PM | Report abuse

It wasn't his heart being in the wrong place that caused this republican clown so much trouble.

What a worthless bunch of lying scumbags. Is it any wonder our once great country is in such terrible shape.

Posted by: rcubedkc | July 31, 2009 6:56 PM | Report abuse

Love makes people do strange things and Gov. Sanford is truly in love with his soul mate. Now Jenny Sanford might have the man but Maria will always have his heart and love. This is about a woman holding on to a man who doesn't love her which is something American woman have always done. Mark will be with Maria in the end. Just think as Jenny hears Mark call her Maria that should seal the deal. Mark had been looking for a soul mate since he married Jenny and that should tell you something. Jenny made Mark a Congressman and a Governor but she never had his love. Just because a man has children with a woman doesn't mean he loves her as we see in this case.

Posted by: qqbDEyZW | July 31, 2009 10:43 PM | Report abuse

Good to see that, for all its faults, South Carolina seems to have a functioning Sunshine law.

If a mere citizen (or reporter) wanted to get a copy of an e-mail written by our Federal "servants" on a Federal computer, it's doubtful they'd get very far -- and they sure as heck wouldn't get an answer within one month.

Posted by: DupontJay | July 31, 2009 11:40 PM | Report abuse

When this first came out last month, I thought his marriage is toast and after a few months he would be headed for divorce. But this last letter reveals how hard he was trying to save his marriage. Jenny actually wanted the divorce it seems and he was begging for some time. I think if Jenny had allowed that time back when he asked to resolve it privately with that homewrecker, it wouldn't have come down to this.

Yes, above all Mark Sanford is WRONG, but as a woman - how do we excuse this immoral Argentine woman who proclaims love to a man who was not available to her? She knew he was married and has 4 young boys. She herself was married, she should have respected other women's marriages. Sure she had a fling, but if she had just respected herself enough to let it stand at that one fling she wouldn't have been dragged into this mess. Now she lives in a country that is absolutely Catholic with this tremendous guilt and shame. Her own sons will be ridiculed and if I were them, i'd run off to be with the father rather than with a mother who's been labeled.

Posted by: candida1 | August 1, 2009 2:32 PM | Report abuse

I agree with Candida. Caitlyn Flanagan had an excellent article in Time about this where she called Maria an "emotionally needy woman". What kind of a woman would carry on a secret correspondence with a married man with kids for 8 years after a chance meeting at a dance floor. And describe sexual details in those letters. Her behaviors is just as appalling as his and its disgusting to hera him paint his affair as the love story of the decade when it seems to have been nothing more than a tryst between two emotionally needy people who contantly needed their egos stoked. Disgusting. Some posters who know her have claimed that she has slept with married men before and also with members of the mafia. She seems as much a love troll as he is.

Posted by: shoana1 | August 2, 2009 10:52 PM | Report abuse

And just when will the high, mighty and righteous Limbaugh, Hannity, Beck and O'Reilly
push for this unfaithful father of four to be impeached?

Posted by: lufrank1 | July 31, 2009 1:14 PM | Report abuse
They'll get around to it as soon as they get done overthrowing Obama and everything good for this country and reinstall a bunch of thieves, draft dodgers and sexual deviates into every position of the government.

Posted by: dennissuper | August 4, 2009 1:30 PM | Report abuse

I find it interesting that Sanford is a member of the C Street crowd in Washington, DC. This group considers themselves the new chosen ones and are forgiven for any sins they commit. So screwing around is okay for C Street members, but not for anyone else. Many members are members of Congress -- representatives and senators -- who are using taxpayer dollars to fly around the world enlisting heads of state to their theocracy that they envision to have Washington, DC as it's center. Now, that's scary business. We don't live in a theocracy -- we live in a democracy.

Posted by: Perkins1 | August 5, 2009 12:39 AM | Report abuse

Maria Chapur is ex-lover of Daniel Haddad (who btw, was also married that time with 4 kids), who belongs to a global, cultist organization JUST LIKE THE C-STREET. See this link.

Posted by: spc2 | August 5, 2009 1:21 PM | Report abuse

If Sanford would do the truly honorable thing and resign this entire mess would go away. Then, although, his heart might not be right with his lawful wife it atleast he could reduce the amount of humiliation that his continued stupidity seems to shower on both her and their four children. What a total jerk to hold his own personal political ambition above what is best for his family. Quite frankly this man is too stupid to be a governor. And to those who think the Sanford doesn't want a divorce I totally disagree - I just don't think he can handle his wife making the decision and she holds all the money (which has helped him get where he is).

Posted by: mcordray | August 6, 2009 11:57 AM | Report abuse

sheez! What's it take to be politically scorned in this country? Going the route of William Jefferson (D-Louisiana); not only being convicted but, hopefully, serving time? I say this as a liberal Democrat!

Posted by: nwsjnky1 | August 6, 2009 5:25 PM | Report abuse

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