Friedgen on Dating Older Women
Sometimes when you ask Ralph Friedgen a question, you get a little more than you bargained for. The other day, I asked Friedgen a question about how he knows when to be hard on the players and when to take a lighter approach. He gave me what I needed but then veered off on a tangent, which led to another tangent, which led to a little too much information. We will pick it up where Ralph is talking about where he got his tendency to take losses very, very hard.
“My father was a coach,” Friedgen said. “When we lost a game, we didn’t eat dinner, lights were shut off, we went to bed. When I got married, I thought it was the same thing. Went to the Citadel, we went 2-9, and I almost got divorced because I thought that was what you were supposed to do.
“We had our first child, and all of the sudden, I realized she didn’t really care whether we won or lost, so I got a little better at it. Maybe it was kind of engrained in me as a kid. I had a date one time, she was a year older than me. She invited me to this dance. I got hooked up with an older crowd. I had an 11 o’clock curfew and came in at 1. We had lost a rival game that day.
“My father was waiting for me when I walked through the door that day. I remember him saying, ‘You will never date an older woman again in your life.’ And I didn’t, either. He was tough.
“It’s even interesting now. We have home games. My house is like a hotel for home games. You all know my wife. She loves to entertain. Every room will be filled with people. You don’t know what it’s like to come home after a hard week, and I am watching the night game, and there are 20 people in my lounge. I’m sitting there just wanting to think about next week. Just the way life is. So I have learned to keep things in me and not let people be affected by it.”
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