Party Like a Newlywed
Not so long ago, I met a young woman from Atlanta who was about to be wed. I was on a bike tour of New York City's Central Park that included this perky blonde and her equally adorable bachelorettes. It was her last hurrah before she became a Mrs.
As we pedaled up and down short hills, she told me about her plans and how stressed she was ..... about the post-wedding party. The ceremony, she said, was going to be a piece of, yes, wedding cake. She and her fiance were going to fly to Maui and get married with only an officiant and palm trees in attendance. The plane tickets, hotel room and other arrangements were in place.
Since they were not inviting anyone to the wedding, she felt the need to include everyone in the fete. The number was mushrooming to 200; the cost was exploding in kind. She confessed that she wanted to be a no-show at her own party.
Her story seems to touch on a recent survey by The Knot, the online wedding bible for giddy lovebirds. About 1 in 10 couples have a destination wedding, defined as a location at least 200 miles from the couples' home. In addition, about 25 percent of destination weddings are held outside the States.
Destination weddings have multiple appeals: Besides the exotic location that feeds the romantic fantasy, the faraway locale also helps couples winnow the guest list. Only those with strong ties to the groom and bride and/or fat wallets can make the trek. In addition, the honeymoon is built into the wedding, a nice way to tamp down costs. Simply swap gown and tux for bathing suits and you are off on your honeymoon.
From my experience with destination weddings, most couples do throw a bash closer to home for those who could not make the main event. These parties have always been festive, rollicking affairs, stripped of jitters and formalities.
I wish I had a solution for Miss Atlanta's stress. Perhaps she could have held the party in a cabin in the Blue Ridge Mountains or on a barrier island, which would keep the numbers small and the planning low-key. Or maybe she should just remember that her friends and family are gathering in celebration of a union, not to critique the hors d'oeuvres. Regardless, I am confident that with her golden Hawaiian tan and her smiling husband by her side, she will have the party of a lifetime. If only I had remembered to give her my address. What's one more person?
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